The Gleaner reported that many Jamaicans are taking out loans to attend party events….. Yes borrowing money and paying interest in order to attend parties…. WTF!!!
"Founder and CEO of Sprint Financial Services, Christopher Barrett, pointed out that the number of persons accessing loans to attend events is on the increase. The company started offering loans to patrons attending some of the most expensive parties in the west of the island in 2012 and is doing the same this year: ".......
A person would have to be completely WORTHLESS to borrow money to go to party, I know we love having a good time but one cannot love merriment that much. If these are the people we are expecting to bring Innovation and Imagination to our Economy and Society then all is lost.
Several people are blaming the lending agencies for lending people money to go to parties but not for education, well if you are the type of person willing to borrow money to party then you are clearly NOT the type of person who cares about education and the financial houses should make a living of your sorry disgusting ass..
These are the same people who curse the Government for not Letting Off ( giving freely) the countries resources, we want free light, free water and free house but have no problem borrowing money to attend parties. Some of these people normally use the Poverty Card as a means to an end. They almost riots when $20 was added to the price of a patty, saying that the government was trying to kill poor people. They do not have any Personal Responsibility, the Government must let off and Jamaicans in foreign countries should send them money and barrels.
It must be the fault of you Jamaicans living overseas, you are lazy people and not working enough, so get a second or third job you worthless cruds. You clearly need to send more money and more barrels, just look what these poor people are force to do because you Jamaicans living overseas failed to send enough money, they are forced to borrow to finance their Over the Top Lifestyles. Listen you lazy, good for nothing overseas Jamaicans, Hennessy and merriment is not cheap, so get your act in gear, work harder and send more money.
"In 2011 Audi sales overtakes BMW for the first time in Jamaica and now 2013 Audi Sales Climb - Adam Stewart Credits 'Aspirational' Demand For Luxury, Sets Sights On No. 1 Slot."
The person who pioneered micro lending got a Nobel for it. A Bangladeshi fellow who formed grameen bank. to help poorer than poor Bangladeshis (plenty women) make a living off hustling, buying/selling, to get a leg up in society and take care of their households and lift them out of grinding, generations of poverty. Micro lending is for the poor bag juice man to buy couple bags wholesale to sell and then buy and sell, for the handcart man, the market woman. When they get a leg up in society, their children benefit, the nation benefits.Nobel Peace Prize Goes to Micro-Loan Pioneers
Micro lending in Jamaica is helping the so-called suffering oppressed masses, who almost riot because of the $20 increase on Patty to Party like its 1999 all over again....
Some time ago I was having a conversation with an American friend of mine about the American war of independence. During the conversion he was going on and on about how America kicked the great British army’s ass and won their independence. I listened for a while and agreed that yes America did win the war of Independence but then asked him a simple question.
At the time of the American War of Independence, can you describe to me what was happening in Britain at the time? This he could not answer, he had no idea what was happening in the Britain at the time, he knew the King and his countrymen got beaten but that was it and I was not surprised because he was never thought anything about life in the Britain during this war. He knew nothing about the mood of the people, nothing about what was happening on that side of the world. I suppose the yanks left that part out of history because it may affect the way the story was told and if you want to create Big Bang memorable event that solidify's a nation and have them rally round that event then your enemy must be a big and bad, powerful tyrant who attacked you with all his might and you kick his ass to achieve ultimate glory.
Many years before this conversation I was sitting in a West Indian and European history class, when the professor walked in and asked ...do you know how slavery ended? Well everyone in the class nodded in agreement, yes after one revolt and riot after another, we became such a thorn in the side of the British and they had no choice but to give in.
He told us that at the end of the course he hoped we would come away with a better understanding of how the world worked. He went on to say that at the time the Britain was the greatest Military power the world had ever seen in a longtime, that Britain ruled the high seas, had more military might than the next 6 world power put together and could travel half way round the world and lay waste to any of her enemies. he told us we were going to analyse, investigate and evaluate why Britain did not use her Military might and lay waste to tiny Jamaica and restore order?
He declared that for the next couple months we would study British History during the years leading up to the abolition of the slave trade and slavery, trying to find out why Britain did not bring the full force of her Military might down on Jamaica but instead abolished Slavery and the Slave trade. We needed to understand the mood of the country at the time and how it was changing, to find out if that had anything to do with the outcome.
For the next couple months we studied British and European History
We studied about conditions that existed in Britain at the time.
We studied about the Plantocracy, who they were and how much power they had.
We studied about the start of the industrial revolution and the great transformation of the British economy.
We studied about the rise of the Industrialist, the industrial barons.
We studied about the decline of the Plantocracy, how and why they lost power.
We found out that that what was important to the Plantocracy was not important to the industrialist.
We studied the rise of beet sugar and how it affected cane sugar, who was no longer king.
We studied about industrialist financing various abolition movements at home and abroad and how they elected several of their members to parliament thus further weakening the Plantocracy.
We were given manuscripts containing debates after debates in the British parliament about the colonies, slavery and emancipation, as well as various issues affecting the British Economy and the different interest of the British society. While reading and analysing various debates, we came across a passage that said Jamaica was now costing Britain 10,000 more shillings per year than she earns. It seemed slavery was no longer earning Britain as much money as before and was now costing Britain money, and you cannot have that, why should industrialist finance a bunch of farmers in this black colony.
So the reasons for the end of the slavery and the slave trade was complex and multidimensional. We found out that the industrialist used various revolts to their advantage as a means to an end but it was not the revolts that ended slavery, after all, the only thing this great power had to do was raised a vast army from her vast Empire, send over loads of ships and bombard the entire island from sea before invading and re-establish her control.
So what of the American Revolution, what was happening in Britain and Europe at the time? We know Britain was at war with the French who were just across the channel, a hop, skip and a jump away. We know that Spain, as an ally of France and was also at war with the British. We know the British was at war in other parts of the Empire as various European nations try to loosen her grip on power and take some of what she had. We know at the time America was not considered a valued colony because British West Indian colonies were way more valuable to Britain. In 1773 the value of British Imports from Jamaica was five times greater than those from all the American colonies. Nevis produced three times more British imports than New York between 1714 and 1773 because it was sugar, ...not tobacco that was king... Britain was not about to take its eyes off the French and Spanish to fully engage those British citizens in America. It was one thing to fight Native Red Skin Americans and Mutinous black slaves and put them down like dogs but it was another to fight your own British brothers and sisters. We know that various debates in parliament by British MP’s supported the views of the British people in America, some even wear blue colour to show their support.
Spain, as an ally of France, attacked other far more important British colonies such as Gibraltar and the West Indies; therefore the far more experienced and better quality British soldiers were sent to successfully defend these and other places, rather than the thirteen colonies that were more of a drain on the British treasury than filling it since Britain over the years had to send its army to help the colonies against the Indians and other potentially invading Europeans. In the end Britain had a choice to make and she made it by weighting her pros and cons.
To fully understand history one must have all the facts, only then can we fully appreciate the realities of life...
I will never pretend to completely understand human nature or what makes us behave so differently. I will never understand why man commit murders, rape, climb Mount Everest, travel to the moon, run into a burning building to rescue a child or cut out a man’s heart and eat it live on camera. What would make the Hutus slaughter the Tutsis in Rwanda where 500,000 people were killed in the first 100 days of conflict and an estimated 1,000,000 in total murdered or the Germans to slaughter six million Jews and start a war that resulted in over 56,125,262 people killed?
But what I do know is that most children live what they learn, that how they were raised and socialized contributes to the type of person they will become and define their value system. Who we are today is as a result of what we learnt as children, the schools we go to, the people we know and the environment we grew up in, the expectations from the people around us and the level of education we were given. It has a lot to do with who our parents are and how they were raised, our extended family and their values and beliefs. All these things come together to define us and give us a sense of right, wrong, direction and purpose. We are a complex animal, we humans are capable of good, bravery, love, death, destruction and genocide. I know that what seems right to one person can seem very wrong to another, I know that what seems like the norm to one person can seem very abnormal to another. I know what seems straight forward to one person can seem complex and convoluted to another person.
If you grow up in an environment where bad things are happening all around you, so much so that it seems like the norm then that could define the type of person you will grow up to become and you will see nothing wrong with these things, these actions regardless of how disgusting they are, it is what it is and the human mind makes adjustments to understand and live with the thing happening around us. A boy who grows up seeing his father beating his mother and no one does anything about it, not even the mother who carries on looking after the family as if it was normal then chances are he will also grow up to beat the women in his life because children internalize and make bad disgusting things the norm... but I am using the word bad and disgusting because of the person I am, my value system, he may not describe these actions in the same way that I am describing them, your bad and disgusting, my normal. So if a child lives in an alienated, impoverished community where ignorance and depravity is allowed to fester and grow with every passing generation then that child will think what ever is going on around him or her is completely normal human behavior. Human socialisation is based on values, good or bad that are passed down from one generation to the next and accepted as norm.
I saw my first jungle justice at around the age of 15 and it struck me almost instantly that what I was watching was very wrong as the level of human suffering was too much to bear not to mention the people dishing out the beating was having way too much fun at the expense of this man’s suffering. I saw a lady tie up a dog and beat it for taking something from her kitchen table and I know instantly that what she was doing was wrong as the level of animal cruelty was also too much to bear. My father and I saw a woman beating a child and it was no ordinary beating, she completely lost it and was no longer in control of the situation so my father pulled her off the child, took that child home with us where he spent rest of the weekend and it was not until she calmed down and spoke to my father that she realized that what she was doing was wrong. So my level of compassion and values was inherited from my family, friends and my unique experiences in life.
I totally agree that no one puts a gun in a black ghetto person’s hand and forces him to squeeze the trigger taking another person’s life. That is the decision made by that person alone and only that individual is responsible for his or her actions and must pay the price. But that does not say, that this human created system did not play a part in their twisted decision making process, because who we are today, is as a result of that system that can create the conditions for such behavior as it desensitize, dehumanize, alienate and promotes a dog eat dog environment. If a child grows up in an environment where guns are barking day and night, bullet flying everywhere, fights are common occurrence, dead bodies are a common in streets and people literally take what they want from each other because they live by the code of survival for the fittest. Then how in heavens name do we expect these kids to grow up any differently from their immediate surroundings since they will live what they learn, they will internalize and normalize what they see around them.
All one needs to do is listen to some of these people and you will realize their concept of life is totally foreign and they believe there is nothing wrong with it. Yes ignorant, uneducated people believe their ignorance is perfectly OK and they are not afraid to give you some convoluted, twisted logic as to why. Before a man can pull himself out of the gutter he must first have the Where-With-All to, a) realize he is in the gutter and b) that there are other options, c) everything that he thought as normal was in fact abnormal and not how human beings should live and d) he must live in a society that is more accepting of him, one that practice inclusion not exclusion and allocates resources in a more egalitarian manor.
One will also find that solutions are based on human nature and experiences. We get different solutions from different people based on how they were socialized and raised, based on their outlook on life, education level and values. It is easier for some to just disregard these people as animals, beyond help and a waste of time and some will say they are living just how they want to live. Others will say they should Just Pull themselves Up By their own Bootstraps and if you ask a gangster or a murderer why they did what they did some will say they were pulling themselves up by their own bootstraps best they know how in a dog eat dog world. It is also true that if you try to implement change in the ghetto, to modify their behavior, to legislate change most will resist such change. There are lots of people in the Ghetto who does not want change or structure, some are very comfortable with the system they already know. For many people ghetto life is nice because ignorance is blitz, the ghetto represents a certain level of freedom and irresponsibility that is not enjoyed by any other sector of society…
I wish the solution was that simple, that all you have to do is to tell people to simply stop doing wrong things and do the right things, stop your killing, robbing and raping your fellow man, just stop being ignorant and they would immediately see the error of their ways but looking at human history and my unprofessional study of human nature, it is never that easy. I have been called a Left, Leaning and Liberal Lackey simply because some believe I am wasting my time trying to understand the behavior of man and human nature, that there is nothing to understand, they are simply disgusting animals …end of… and I am the first to say that some of them are beyond help but the fact that man was not born with a genetic predisposition to hate and to murder other man but acquire these traits through insufficient socialization, tells me that our society must do more to help in the socialization of our young, to give them the Where-With-All to rise up and overcome these urges, since children live what they learn we must make sure they are being taught the right values because the greater good of humanity demands it.
Chicago’s crime rate continues to rise: 41 shootings reported over the weekend...
Does the attitude of the American society contribute to the increase in black on black crime? Do the powers that be even care, or is it a matter of black violence, black problem, who cares so long as that problem is confined to black areas. I have been reading various comments on messaging boards regarding crime in America, it is clear that some white Americans take great pleasure in pointing out that the level of Black on Black crime is proof that blacks are inferior and genetically predisposed to crime and violence, some are certainly enjoying themselves at the expense of human misery.
They do not see this as an American problem, no, to them America is quite fine and operating within normal parameters, since the people committing the crimes are of African origin which proves that they are savages and in their world everything is hunky dory. What made it even worst is the fact that America's President is half black, so it is even more important that black people in general fail. There are certain elements of white America who have made it their lives work to prove that blacks are inferior, savages and a threat to society. What amazes me was that during hard times, for example, the World Trade Centre attack, they pretend to be one people, unified against the world, it was a pretentious hug fest performed for the benefit of others but in reality they are anything but unified. It seems black people pay taxes but are expected to solve their own crime problem as the security forces are for protecting whites only.
I do not believe that black people or any other human being for that matter are genetically predisposed to violence, so why then are some black people acting inferior and like savages towards each other in one of the world’s richest and most powerful country? For the most part American Black Ghettos are not created by accident, they were engineered into existence and what is happening today is by design, a process that was put in place long ago to create a culture of ignorance and violence within the black population which is now self-sustaining, taking on a life of its own, while the people who helped to engineer this situation, sit back and enjoy their handy work. Take for example Levittown which was designed to provide a large amount of housing at a time when there was a high demand for affordable family homes. Before the sale of Levittown homes began, the sales agents were aware that no applications from black families would be accepted. As a result American veterans who wished to purchase a home in Levittown were unable to do so if they were black. William Levitt, the promoter of Levittown, attempted to justify their decision by saying that whites prefer not to live in mixed communities and his decision was only business not personal. This mind-set also extended to both governments and corporations who invest more in white areas than they do in black areas.
Of course, without a shadow of a doubt, black people must accept full responsibilities for their actions or lack of actions in allowing the spread of pure ignorance to swagger throughout black communities. I will go even further to say that as Human Beings regardless of colour, we must accept responsibilities for our actions or lack of actions but I have been on this earth long enough to know human beings do not regard themselves as one unified entity. No one really cares about the level of ignorance that is swaggering its way across black communities, no one really cares about finding solutions not the government, not corporations and certainly not popular black culture who depends on this level of ignorance to get paid. It is also retarded to expect ignorant people to come up with their own solutions, well for one they are ignorant and it is their ignorance that is the cause of the problem and I am certain you will not like the solutions they come up with, the self-sustaining crime and violence in the black Ghettos is evidence of that.
Enter the For-Profit Prison System that requires millions of customers for its shareholder to make a profit and… tag you are it, black people. This is also part of the design process where people are engineered to become customers to the Prison system, private contract companies are hired and are paid per head to run the system, the bigger the prison population the more money they get and a steady flow of inmates are required to keep that cash flow going. It stands to reason that loads of people are profiting off Black peoples ignorance, so why would the stakeholders want to put in place measures that would stop this flow of easy cash money... The United States has less than 5 percent of the world's population. But it has almost a quarter of the world's prisoners, 2.3 million criminals behind bars. It has 751 people in prison or jail for every 100,000 in population. (If you count only adults, 1 in 100 Americans is locked up.). Approximately 12%-13% of the American population is African-American, but they make up a staggering 40.1% of the prison population, 1 in 3 Black Men Go to Prison. The lack of investments in Black Communities was designed to help feed this prison system, these areas have poor and dilapidated educational institutions, poorly paid and unqualified teachers and lack of proper health care and job opportunities. Black communities are left alone, isolated from the mainstream and allowed to stew in their own festering pool of ignorance. Everyone knows that if you want your child to have a proper education, you must try to get them in a school with majority white pupils because that is where your tax dollars goes. Not to mention American Ghettos are laboratories for GMO companies selling all manner of nasty disgusting chemicals they call food and the source of great wealth for Gun manufacturers and sellers, guns are everywhere in America. The fact is if the parents are uneducated and ignorant then chances are the child will also be uneducated and ignorant and even more than the parent.
The For Profit Prison System is big business, take for example, Corrections Corporation of America (CCA) and GEO Group, Prison Contract Companies with 50 percent of their annual earnings through state level contracts, while the remaining 50 percent comes through contracts with the Federal Bureau of Prisons, US Marshals and the US Immigration and Customs Enforcement agency and as of 2010, these two private prison giants netted a total of $2.9 billion and got $29 million in tax dollars each year …just these two companies. AND get this…. According to NASDAQ data, the retirement funds of government employees – including public school teachers – "are some of the biggest investors in private prisons": "The retirement funds for public employees and teachers in New York and California together have about $60 million ($30 million each) invested in CCA and GEO. Teacher retirement funds in Texas and Kentucky have $8.3 million and $4 million invested in prisons respectively, and public employees in Florida ($10.3 million), Ohio ($8.6 million), Texas ($5.6 million), Arizona ($5.3 million), and Colorado ($2.25 million) are also connected to the industry."
Breaking the cycle of Black on Black violence is not going to be easy nor will it end anytime soon as it is not in the best interest of Corporate America and the Government, coupled with the fact that the problems that exist in the black communities are confined to those communities, so very little chance of it reaching white main street America. As I said in a previous post, one long, long time ago in America, we were taking my cousins girlfriend back to her campus in Westchester, when the cops pulled us over, he ask us why we were in his neck of the woods and told us to leave as soon as possible, after we dropped her off, we looked behind us to see him following us all the way back to the highway, just to make sure we got out of town…
Poverty, violence and human suffering is big business for white America, so if you have a few quid and do not mind making money off human misery and suffering then these are the stocks you need to buy because as Wesley Snipes said in the movie Passenger 57 …."Always bet on black"
Corrections Corp of America
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Blacks serve in the Army at a rate that is higher than their representation in the U.S. population. For example, as of FY09, the percentage of Black enlisted Soldiers in the active-duty Army was 21% compared to 17% of the U.S. population of 18-39 year old Blacks with high school diplomas. High representation of Blacks was also noted in the Officer ranks where 13% were Black compared to 9% of the U.S. population of 25-54 year old Blacks with college degrees.
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The Jamaican Ghetto was created for almost the same reason as their American counterpart, born out of slavery, colonialism, rejection and poverty but it was the home grown colonial black Jamaicans who transformed it into what it is today for the very same reasons, for Greed, Power and money. Our Prison System however is not a For-Profit Prison system, unless you include the guards taking bribes, as power and money is not centered around it but on our ghettos. Is it me or are Jamaicans in the Ghetto spending their time watching nightly international news to find out the names of the world’s most disgusting hot spots, and crazy lunatics then rename their communities and themselves to match crazy town… Vietnam', 'Angola' or 'Jungle 12, Angola' is Goldsmith Villas and 'Vietnam' is Bottom River. 'Jungle 12', named for 12 young men who had and admired friends in 'Jungle' (Arnett Gardens) is Colour Yellow and the now famous Gaza.
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While sitting in my sister’s living room watching the Television, a friend of my sisters came by to visit, she seemed somewhat upset and the reason why, was made clear very early in the conversation as she declared … “The worst thing I have ever done, was to move back to Jamaica with my husband, if I knew it was going to end up like this, I would have stayed the hell in Canada!”.
I sat their thinking, Ok this must be either Crime or Bureaucracy, two of the main reasons why Returning Residence regret packing up their Milo boxes and move back to Jamaica but I was wrong, there is a third reason why a mature woman would regret moving back to Jamaica. It seemed this very lovely lady became a Jamaican statistics, like most women her age… She was traded in for a newer model as it did not take long for her Husband to be re-infected with the deadly YF and G virus which is a mutated strain of the Zombie Virus. In Jamaica this virus is spreading like wildfire since it has been airborne for some time and people who are infected by it, suffer from the dreaded YF and G Syndrome. The infected people mostly Jamaican males suffers from a Zombie like symptoms with a uncontrollable hunger and desire for Young, Fresh and Green Girls affectionately known as Mateys, there is no known cure for the deadly Young, Fresh and Green Syndrome.Women are also known to be infected by this deadly virus, their symptoms are also Zombie like but with an uncontrollable hunger and desire for men with money and power regardless of relationship status or age, it is every girl for herself.
“Every day I love her just a little bit more little bit more, little bit more every day I love her just a little bit more and she loves me the same... Cause she's Young, Fresh and Green and I like how she round at the seam”…. BARRINGTON LEVY - SHE'S MINE LYRICS
There is a surplus of single older mature woman in Jamaica, most of whom are mothers wondering the landscape like Zombies and Jamaica also have a surplus of older men with younger woman attached to them, some as young as their daughters and represents their fourth or fifth Trade in/Upgrade from the women dealership we call High schools and colleges. If I have 10 male friends 9.5 of them have already traded in their old wife or girlfriend for a younger newer model at least once already and if I have 10 female friends 7.5 of them have been replaced by newer models while the .5 represents those that are in transition and denial mode, still fighting desperately to hang on.
5 Types of Matey!
A friend once said that living overseas enforces relationships and strengthen the bonds as a survival mechanism in cold, dark foreign countries are stronger. In Jamaica the Cultural Paradigm seems to be different because most people are always in a state of Perpetual Significant Other Transition and the men are dealing with the stress of maintaining two or more “Mateys” (The juggling factor) on the side. The Jamaican male is more inclined to join in with this cultural narrative not only to keep pace with friend and family but because they cannot resist the lure of a fine well structured YF and G. This coupled with the fact that some “Mateys” do not want to remain “Mateys” for long and are pushing for the transition to take place sooner, rather than later. I have even seen “Mateys” who displaced the previous wife, girlfriend or Matey, cry, scream and complained that she is now being displaced by a new YF and G Matey, which puts a new twist on the saying “tief from tief God Laugh…” and in the middle of all this the Jamaican man skips merrily along, basking in all the attention. The act of replacing ones wife or girlfriend with a newer model YF and G girl is not limited to one section of society, it is not limited to class or colour, education or Political and financial status, it is a cultural thing, that knows no bounds. Stories of old girlfriends and wives being pushed to the curb for the latest models are the talk of the town as the new girl slips into the position with relative ease.
Married women in Jamaica are always on Ultra-High Alert, DEFCON-1, Matey Threat Level -Damn Severe, Matey Attack Imminent, as they keep one eye on the house, one eye on hubby and another third eye on any Young, Fresh and Green female, walking by or driving pass the house. A person I worked with said he is forced to take his car to the car wash after every meet up with Matey because Matey would like nothing more than to inform the wife that she exist. What she does is leave things in his car, from finger nail to underwear, sometimes 3 or 4 items placed all over the car, like a Easter egg hunt. It got so bad he was forced to cut her loose.
Matey vs. Wifey
The Art of Juggling and Taming the Doseki man
Juggling multiple women is not for the faint of heart, especially Juggling the Jamaican woman, so if you cannot deal with stress then I suggest you not even try to play this game, I must say most of my friends are expert Jugglers. Sometimes I would listen to my friends and look at the woman wondering, what the hell is she thinking, have she not sight the rake yet, how can she not see, surly she cannot be that stupid. One of my friends had four girlfriends that he considered as wife material as oppose to the others girls in his life as he proclaimed he loved them all equally. I remember going on of his Valentine’s Day run, well I did not have a choice as he begged me to come for “backative’ and an excuse not to be forced to stay. In the trunk of his car was 4 bunch of long stem roses and as we approached each of the girls house he would stop the car several roads away, remove a bunch, write up the card and put it on back seat of the car. I asked would it not be easier to write all the cards and put all the roses in back seat of the car to begin with and he said “Yu mad!!!!, stop gwan like yu no know how running’s go… suppose me pick up the wrong bunch and give her or she come over to the car?”…. Oh I see…. So sorry Master Sensei.
He had a Valentine’s Day story he told all of them, that it is a family tradition on every Valentine’s Day that he spend that day with his dear mother. So three of them would get this story and one special one would get the story that she was so special, he had to cancel spending it with his Dear Mother, so he could spend it with her as a sign of extreme love and devotion …. "Oh.. how sweet". You should see the puppy dog look of love on her face and I was cracking the frack up... For Christmas he had more days to play with so he could fit each of them in over the entire holiday. The problem I had with my friend’s relationships was that I was the person who they come crying to when things go bad, they look to me to give them incite as to why things did not work out.
One day he came over my house grasping at a cigarette feeling down, out and depress, crying how one of his ladies break up with him, so I said, but boss, why are you upset since you still have 3 more but he declared he loved them all dearly and it hurts to lose one, I immediately turned my attention back to the TV, turned it up and continued to watch the nightly news while refusing his constant request for me to call her and plead his case because I was sick and tired of lying my ass off for another one of his ridiculous relationships. I think deep down all my friend’s girlfriends and wives know exactly the type of person they are with, they must, they cannot be that fecking stupid but I think that is what attracts them in the first place, the competition between women and the desire to tame the wild bronco.
If I ever tell you the story about time he was forced to let DW out of his second floor bedroom window, buck naked using a bed sheet to help her make her getaway, because wifey 1 of 4 was in the house and making her way upstairs, then called me in the dead of night to pick up this poor naked girl from the bushes and remind me that I must remember to bring some of my sisters cloths because she was buck naked and he did not have time to throw her cloths out the window, you would not believe it but I will save that for another time. The Art Juggling multiple women is not for the weak of heart and act of trying to tame the Doseki man is also not for the weak heart.
Back to the Topic at hand I have heard many stories of wives being displaced by YF and G Household Helpers who became new mistress of the house they use to work in, which is why in Jamaica wives are very selective about who they hire as helpers, they must think long and hard about who they are willing to leave at home with their man, especially if that helper is lived in… old women with no teeth are very high on the check list of good qualities for employment, all to save the man from himself. Off course this did not go well for the adolescent male in the family, who I am sorry to say relies on a steady stream of YF and G Household Helpers to ease them into manhood but not necessarily maturity, yes it was no secret when I was growing up, that our decision making process with regards to whose house we were going to hang out after school was also based on the hotness factor and accessibility of the Household Helper and yes the content and accessibility of their refrigerator and by the time I left high school, three boys I know had babies with household helper.
Roll Model to Jamaican men. A friend of mine declared to me that a certain Member of Parliament who recently got married was an absolute inspiration to Jamaican men everywhere. I said how so? He said… “Well he grew his own YF and G wife, brought her into the house when she was 15, buy her school books, uniform, educate and feed her then married to her when she came of age. This way you no longer have to go searching for a match but grow it instead, like a suit, it cut to fit, plus it is much easier to bend a tree when it is young”…. Oh I see…. The Yard logic never fails to amaze and cracks me the frack up every time.
Trying to Get Answers One day, long, long ago I was trapped in the house with my sisters and their loud gossiping female friends, normally I try very hard to avoid them being the only boy and younger brother but on this day, I was waiting for a friend to pick me up, so I was trapped like a rat in a cage and they like nothing more than to embarrass the little brother, so I was trying very hard not get noticed, blending into the background and walking softly. At one point the conversation of sex came up as one woman declared that she was very particular about what she does in the bedroom with hubby, limiting her activities to a more Conservative Performance….(aka nuh man nah kin her out)
Jah know star, I tried very hard to wish myself invisible or to teleport myself to another dimension but it was not to be as I wondered why they could not wait a few more minutes until I leave, before embarking on this topic, I know they are not afraid to try and drag me into their ridiculous conversations. At which point another one of my sister’s loud friend piped in… “Yu stay deh, yu betta learn fi swing from the chandeliers because dem young gal out a road A… acrobatic!”… Oh dear lord, if there is a God… save me now…Please, is all I could think of. The situation got even worst after my friend came to pick me up and he decided to join the conversation as the women bounced various concepts and ideas off him, trying to get a man’s point of view about relationship, marriage and “YF and G” Matey out a road. My friends love nothing more than to sit and chat to my sisters and their friends, they see them as source of constant entertainment.
The Question and Answer Session, trying to understand the Jamaican Man:
Question: Why unoo man so terrible and treat woman so bad
Answer: A no terrible we terrible baby, a love we love di whole a unoo, if woman just accept the fact that man have multiple woman then we all could live happy, a selfish unuu selfish…
Question: What if women have multiple men?
Answer: Not a rass, woman fi only have one man...
Question: But how come man always go after young girls and not woman their own age, mature woman
Answer: Older woman come with too many baggages, by the time we get them is all 10 man left dem and gone and a woman after 10 man is not nice to be around, she already pissed off, vex, miserable and crass and most man just want a simple life. Who want to deal with all that Almshouse?
Accusations: You man will come up with any excuse fi run after the flighty tail, dry foot young gal dem..
Response: you cannot carry past relationship into new relationship that is why man stay clear…
Question: But look how “whats-her-name”, look after this man and pickney dem and him just jump up and leave her
Answer: me hear different
Question: weh you hear
Answer: Nothing neva did a gwan in a di bedroom, she dry up and a tek him fi eediot
Question: So a dat why him leave her but look how him look to… belly big so
Answer: How yu mean, yu can deh wid man a nah let off nothing and road full a young gal ready fi drop whine…
By this time the look on the women faces says, “let’s just kill these two fecking man to make an example out of them rass”, the debate broke down into heated shouting argument with even the helper listening to the conversation unleashed her 2 cents….
“Go weh !! a handle onuu caan handle big woman, mek unoo run to the little picky head gal pickney dem, who caan even whine…
I looked at my friend who was dying of laughter because he successfully stirred up this hen house and said let’s go because I have no idea why you get into this debate with them knowing exactly what would happen… So we made a hasty retread as my friend shout back to the already angry pack of women:
“The whole a unuu betta go home go cook unuu man dinner before him leave unuu and find young gal fi feed him”….
This was a parting shot that resulted in an advancing army of angry pissed off women ready to finish us where we stand… so we made haste into the car, almost in a state of hysterics.
Response: And a hope dem poison the whole a unoo baxside !!!!!
I turned to my friend… boss! When you go home, a me a fi live with them yu nuh, so stop rile dem up.
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I would like to thank Rodney Williams on Facebook for this one, I stole it from him.
No English dictionary has been able to adequately explain the difference between the two words COMPLETE and FINISHED!
Some people say there is no difference between COMPLETE and FINISHED.
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However, there is a difference:
When you marry the right woman, you are COMPLETE.
And when you marry the wrong woman, you are FINISHED.
And when the right one catches you with the wrong one,
You are COMPLETELY FINISHED!!!
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Matey is Mainstream The hallmark in Jamaica is for Matey/older man pair bonding, he pays rent, light bill, water rate and hairdresser for the privilege of shagging and profiling with a Young, tight fleshed, firm bosoms, Fresh and Green woman and if he is lucky, at some point she may get pregnant for him thus giving him the feeling that he is still virile in that department or in some cases if he is unlucky which means he may have to push up the transition time table. Mateys are also not afraid to write Dear Pastor in the Star newspaper, asking for his fatherly advice on how to best solidify the bonding and displace the wife. They feel no way about writing to a reputed man of God, a Christian for his advice on their commandment breaking adulterous quandary, which just shows how mainstream Mateyism is in Jamaica, some even proclaimed that they are good Christian girls who attend church regularly and a lot of the men they are complaining about are also “good” Christian men in the church or the pastor of the church.
Dear Pastor, I am having a problem and I need your advice on what to do. I met this man late last year and we became friends, then we started hanging out and fell in love. What we feel for each other is genuine. My problem is he is married, and yes, I knew this before we got involved. He is having problems at home which I cannot talk about. We spend a lot of time together when he gets the chance, but I need more from him. When he visits me and then has to leave, it hurts.....
The Matey Legislation Act It would not surprise me if the Jamaican Politicians creates and push through the Matey Legislation Act to further solidify the Mateys unique position within the Jamaican society, as several of our well known male politicians are known to have a couple “YF and G” Matey on the side and a lot of wives are willing to look the other way so long as they can maintain the lifestyles they are now accustom to. It was reported that several FINSAC (Financial Sectory Adjustment Company) investigation into financial irregularities by companies turned up loads of Matey Expenditures on the company's books, in the form of expensive uptown townhouses, SUV’s and daily Matey living expenses being paid for by Companies experiencing financial difficulties.
I remember the then Prime Minister of Jamaica PJ Patterson speech at a PNP Political Party Rally as he declared that “more man have car, cell phone and gal than ever before" during his administration.
As a result Peter “The Great” Espeut wrote in his article published in the Gleaner...
“The basis for the statement that "more man have gal than ever before", the Prime Minister reasoned, is that "more man have car" and "more man have land" and "more man have cellular phone"; and therefore "more man have gal" because that is what women want: men with land and car and cellular phones. And so more "man" should have respect for him.
The character of the "gal" painted here is the gold-digger, the "vampire", the "bloodsucker", not motivated by love or a caring relationship, but by what she can get - material things. She is looking for a "boops", not an intimate, tender, love relationship. And so more gal should have respect for him too because they are getting what they want.
I honestly do not think the Prime Minister was overtly seeking to disrespect Jamaican women (or men) by his remarks; after all he wants their respect; but he tapped in to the lack of respect for one another which, unfortunately, characterises much of Jamaican society, rather than seeking to uplift gender relations, and this was disappointing. Genuine respect is not earned in this way.”
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As with many other things in Jamaica nowadays, relationships are broken and have surface value only. Marriages only last as long as it takes the wedding pictures and write up featured in “All Woman” or “Flair” to be published. Conflict resolution is a part of marriage and if Jamaicans fail at this in everyday lives and circumstances, so too do they fail at it in marriage, no one sorts anything out, if things get tough, find a new Matey, nice and spicy. All Matey wants is a good time and little money and to profile. If she's lucky, she catches a man a yard or a big fish and she is made, Big House, a new Audi x5 or Range Rover Evoque, Trips to Miami and a couple Page 2 Observer shots to show her friends. .
One cannot talk about this syndrome without talking about the DISMAL hopes of good women in the over 33 year old category that are looking for husbands or a good man. Especially those at the left end of the spectrum who are still in their child bearing years and want a proper family including HUSBAND and not just baby, fe a baby fada and on the other end of the spectrum are those who are put out to pasture early and still want a second chance at marital happiness. Unable to satisfy that aspect of their lives they then turn their attention to other aspects such as education and business. Many of these women have returned to school for their degrees some earning their second and third degrees and a lot have re-entered the working world becoming movers and shakers of society but those are the ones that can, many cannot and live at the mercy of the baby fada.
We cannot force people to have relationships if they do not want to have one, it is not the responsibility of Jamaican men to make sure Jamaican women of a certain age is married and with a child, that is not what I am saying however what we have a system of dishonesty, entrapment, secret and lies which is not sustainable and results in a dysfunctional culture of cheating, mateyism and fatherless children.
Mateyism is Not New: This goes back to the beginning of time, in my lifetime I have seen various incarnation of this syndrome and there are many words use to describe the same act or the process of “Concubating”.....Concubinage..
The Boops – Refers to a person who allows themselves to be used willingly or unwillingly in the extracting/exchanging of money and other favors for attention/affection sexual or otherwise.
The Boopsy - Refers to a person who willingly use another person with the sole aim of extracting/exchanging of money and other favors for attention/affection sexual or otherwise
Other terms commonly used are:
Giving or Getting Bun – A man or a woman in an established relationship while having a secret relationship on the side that is mostly public knowledge except the person they are having the established relationship with and if they are completely able to hide any indication of this secret relationship from the person, that is the person skips happily along as if the world is perfect then we say … It is not just Bun him a get but Cheese also.
Jacket – A woman who is able to have a baby by another man while convincing the person she is in an Establish Relationship with that the baby is actually his. It gets even funnier when this is mostly public knowledge and the true identity of the child’s father is known to all except the poor soul and the baby looks nothing like him and exactly like the real father, however sometimes she lucks out and get a baby where no one can tell from just looking at the child… then we say it was a Jacket-Cut-To-Fit.
Si boops deh Supercat
My Walk of Shame I remember this one event when I was in third form, I was at a girls school, annual sports day and I saw this girl I liked so after working up the courage and with encouragement from my so called friends to go over and talk to her, I took the plunge and did just that, only to be told she does not talk to or want little boys, we were the same age, I was told that her man drove “this and that” and own “this and that”, however she left out the part that he was a married with kids. My so called friends laughed me to shame as I was kicked to the curb. Later that afternoon the big man-a-yard came by the school to pick her up in his fancy sports car, he was a graying big beer belly of a man, in pointed toe shoes and you should see the look on her face like “Please Puss” as she sat in the front seat being driven out of the school yard. .
However a decade later, I was driving on Washington Boulevard and stopped at the street light only to look to the side of the road and there she was waiting to cross to the other side, she had two kids with her hanging off her dress and one on the way, she looked horrible, like she could do with a good wash and a proper meal and as they say in Jamaica the two a wi eye mek one (she looked and me and I looked at her) as the realization and recognition sets in, her eyes widen, I looked smiled and slowly looked away and drove off, laughing my head off as I go. Life is One Big Road with Lots of Signs!
After that I investigated the story on her from some mutual friends, it seemed after getting pregnant by the graying big beer belly married man, she went to his house demanding that she is given her rightful place in society, to tell his current wife that she was the new woman in town however his wife was not having any of it and beat her senseless. They told me it was common thing for his wife to beat off the invading hordes (or whores) and stake her claim as queen of his Kingdom. She moved from one married man to the next picking up a meal here and there, couple more beatings from various wives and girlfriends but was never given the life she wanted. After failing to muscle her way uptown she was left broke with several kids (6 in all) and regulated to a life of poverty no longer qualified to be in the Matey category. As for the man he threw out the wife, moved in a redass (light skinned woman) from country and then got arrested for drugs in Florida doing time, last I heard.
Wignall’s War In 2000 Mark Wignall Columnist wrote an Article entitled "In praise of younger women" which became the talk of the town, enraged many and intensified the war not only between men and women but between older and younger women. The backlash was immediate and lasted for many months and I am sure poor Mark was forced to keep a low profile for all those months.
Diana McCaulay, writer and environmentalist responded… “Yet if nothing else, Mr. Wignall's column had the ring of truth. I want to say he wrote from his heart, but he's clearly a man without a heart, so he must have written with the help of a different organ, one not generally associated with a pen and that a female friend said to her that … Nothing more than young cho-cho mad him”. She then stated that Wignall reminded her of a fiftyish, fat, balding, slovenly man. Read Here: The frailties of all flesh
Desmond Henry in his column said Mark Wignall’s Column was “in poor taste”, he further went on to state, “A young, nubile and beautiful woman is always going to be more attractive than the older woman who has aged, has children and struggles with fat, all of which are natural. But so too will a young, virile and handsome man be more attractive than an older man with a 'beer belly' and bald head. Of what use is it to a reader for a columnist to be advocating that it's okay for a man to leave the older woman for a younger woman, merely because she is more attractive?” Read Here: That was in poor taste, Mark Wignall!
It was amazing that I could find every other column about Mark Wignall Column but not the column itself and here I was thinking that it was not possible to remove an item from the Internet.
This brings me to the Concept of Relationships: In my view, everybody needs to settle down and start acting like adults, everybody needs to define their own concept of what type of relationship they want and they need a commonsense approach when defining this concept, using less emotions and more logic. Further in order to define this unique relationship concept a person must first understand them-self, who I am, what am I about, what do I want out of life and what will make me happy which must be rooted in reality not fantasy. A relationship requirement list is not a strict list because every relationship is open to a little give and take and compromise as it cannot be all about you or all about him or her, some give and take must come into play and then there are the big H’s, Honesty and Happiness. Anybody who walks into a relationship with a big long list of demands that is not subjected to debate or change is an idiot and is quickly dismissed by me, I live by my rules, I am willing to bend some, give up some but no way in hell I am going to live totally according to anybody else’s rules, unless you are mother, father and I am a minor. .
Relationships can come in different size, shape and configuration so long as all parties agree in all honesty to the size, shape and configuration of their relationship. Everything in life needs rules to enforce a structure and everyone must buy into the rules. The big question that needs to be answered is what will make you happy and content in a relationship and how do I find someone who want what I want, there is way too much shacking up out of desperation going on. I am not telling people what their relationship should be or how it should be configured, what I am saying is make sure you are happy with whatever structure you agree to and only true Honesty can allow one to fully understand all the parameters and make the right decisions. Let’s saying you want a relationship where you are allowed to sleep with other people , now this is a legitimate demand, you are free to make it, however most people will not accept that and you will have to continue your search until you find a person who agrees and is happy with that or drop that demand. .
I use to work with this person who was married and at the time the parameters and structure of his relationship was well defined, he was happy, wife was happy, until his wife found God. Now he is forced to live a life that he did not agree to, yes some may say, it is noble of her to find God but one must understand that this was not something that defined their relationship or something their relationship was constructed around, so what is this poor man to do with a bible thumping wife who no longer enjoy the things she use to enjoy, in and outside of the bedroom. If he converted to Christianity, it would not be for the right reasons, it would only be to please her and maintain his marriage and he does not want to be a Christian that much he made clear, religion is not for everyone. Under such situation divorce is the only option and the correct option because this represents a breakdown of the relationship and a complete modification of the relationship structure that was agreed upon, one minute you swinging off the chandeliers with your special someone and the next it is missionary style, once a month and not on Sundays because it is the lords day, this is a complete life change and a shock to any man’s system.
He was not happy and she was not happy and what is the point of life if you are not happy. Your first responsibility is to yourself, to make sure you are happy and if you are not then you are wasting your limited existence. I once said to a girlfriend of mine if ever you wake up and find yourself miserable with me, find out that you are not happy and even after attempts at modifying the relationship you are still not happy, it did not work then it is your responsibility to leave and you would be doing me a favour not to mention you would be stupid not to, yes it might hurt but I am not selfish, I do not want to keep anyone regardless of the cost. I understand that you are unhappy and I understand that I cannot make you happy so the quicker you make that decision the better it will be for both of us. And I assured her that if I was ever in that position then I would do the same, relationships are nice but it is not the beginning and end of life and not worth being continuously unhappy over.
A married girl friend of mine, GY who is in her early 40’s once declared that she no longer like or want to have sex and can really do without it, especially since the development of so many advance toys on the market and that after a long hard day in the office, it is the last thing she wanted to do. So I asked her what about her husband… she said she would give in now and then but only so that he would leave her alone.
A big debate followed with me outlining the error of her ways but she refused to budge, her world was not being rocked anymore by it, she preferred self-gratification, she was tired and as such wanted none of it. I said would it then be OK for her husband to find it elsewhere and she said… Maybe, so long and she does not find out however she knows he is not that type of a person, so she can get away with withholding without worrying. I was beginning to believe that in a sick twisted way she was enjoying withholding as a form of S&M punishment, to see how much she could aggravate this poor man, she controlled the Glory and she wanted to see how long and hard she could make him squirm before giving him a small quick sample of the glamity. I sat there trying to figure out why would this man stay in this relationship and suffer like that because it really made no sense to me and the solution for both of them was simple.
This is the reason a lot of yardman come home from work, grab a bite to eat and the next thing the wife hears is the giggle of the car keys as he make his way back out to “Meet up with the boys”… One person I know of use to declare that he is going on a fishing trip sometimes for the entire weekend but never came home with any fish or with a fish that look like he bought it at the supermarket. One night I was out with friends and there he was in a dark corner of the pub with a very Young, very fine, Fresh and Green Matey.
I have met so many people who are married and unhappy or not even married and unhappy to the point of hating each other but because of various reasons they stay together, with one or both of them living a life of bitter misery and I wonder …. Why? I was told my one that as Catholics he did not believe in divorce, however his daily complains about his marriage was way too much for all to take so we told him, to shut up and stop complaining, that frankly we were tired of hearing it because now he is using his marriage as a penance to his God and that is why there is a confession booth. A person I know left her husband, he cried and cried, begged and pleaded, finally she could not take it anymore and went back to him, then complain everyday how she is waking up every morning beside this man she wants nothing to do with, hey but he is happy, so to hell with her. This is why over emotional people lock their significant others in basements or unable to handle the hurt they turn violent, if I cannot have you no one else will… idiots the lot. .
You will notice I did not even define relationship as something between one man and one woman or even state gender, which to me is not relevant and does not factor into happiness and mutual acceptance nor do I care if relationship involves marriages or not. I do not care about the actual configuration of your relationship, be it Mormon with multiple wives or a one man, one woman Christian like relationship, regardless of how many people make up your relationship, their gender or sexual habits whether polyamory , swingers or wife swappers or gang bangers the fact is every aspect of human interaction requires mutually agreed upon, open and honest rules that all the stakeholder need to buy into and if the agreed upon rules change or deviate from the norm then a new agreed upon rules must be made or that is the end of the relationship, misery is not a factor, life is too short for that.
dear wifeys and maties of the world. Sawt out unnu self and stop gwaan like eediat! "The Concubinage"
I was in an online debate regarding a news story where the wife slept with Joe the bartender and the husband was happy with it and one woman proclaimed that if she slept with Joe the bartender her husband would bust a cap in Joe the Bartender’s ass. This is what I never understand with people in a relationship, especially married people. Joe the bartender was never a part of their marriage, the only two people involved in that relationship is the two people who made the vows or promise to each other, it is those two people who should keep their Willy in their pants or their legs close to other people outside of the relationship. That marriage/relationship is the responsibility of the both person A and person B whose names are on the certificate as they look into each other’s eyes and made that promise to each other and as such Joe the bartender or anyone else is not responsible for keeping their relationship intact, so why shoot Joe the bartender, if the wife take a vow, looked in the man eyes and promised then broke those vows to sleep with poor Joe then her husband, if he really need to bust a cap, should bust it in her ass not Joe’s, frankly I would just walk away and furthermore it is within Joes rights to sleep with the wife as it is the Mateys right to sleep with your husband however the reverse is not true. People need to start taking personal responsibility for their own actions especially in relation to their contracted relationships.
no disrespec to di man dem but joe grine and matie a two diffrant kinda sittn
Fact, no one gives a rat ass about your marriage and why should they? It is none of their business, so next time, choose wisely and another thing your biblical rules means nothing to a person who does not share your religious beliefs, how dare you impose your belief system on others, who gave you that right?
At the end of the day, it is very clear that we do have an issue in Jamaica, regarding people who go into relationships and carry on the relationships based on a lie.
We do have a problem where by older men have been bribing younger women for decades creating this climate of Mateyism.
We do have a problem where a lot of young girls are using Sex and the lure of the Glamity as a means to a financial end, which in most cases is short term and once they get older, when the looks are gone and the weight is on and body parts that use to stand up nice, firm and tight are now big and saggy they find themselves, poor, with kids, bitter and alone. Some have mastered the fine heart of holding the Glamity for ransom.
We do have a problem where by older women are too easily put out to pasture as a result of this Mateyism culture, often times leaving them to be both father and mother to the kids and it gets even worst when these poor kids are being used as human shield and weapons in the war between the sexes.
In other countries a man would have to think long and hard about his actions before making a move because in those cultures there is often a price to pay when one turn ones back on one’s family. In these countries the family court system is very swift and makes sure people are accountable for their actions but this is not so in Jamaica where it is way, way too easy.
The debate on this topic has been amazing, not surprising man and woman have different views base on past experiences….
What some people are trying to do is to get the rest of society to do what they are unable to do, which is to protect their own relationship… I am getting the impression that people who enter into a union do not trust the people they are in a union with and once they walk out the door they worry that they will be tempted into someone else’s bed as they are not enough to maintain the bonds between them. So we invented the concept that others should Respect the Sanctity of Marriage because we need societies help to isolate our significant others from temptation and from themselves. As far as I am concern a strong relationship should not be totally based on isolation from temptation but on how well a person handles temptation. If you are in a loving relationship and believe that your words are your bond and you love and respect the person you are with then temptation means absolutely nothing to you … since the Batfink Effect will step in.. “My Wings Are Like A Shield Of Steel!”…
I see the concept of Respecting the Sanctity of Marriage no different than the invention of the chastity belt, a human invention design to protect against human weakness… If you are consumed with the idea that some fine young thing will tempt your man or woman away from you then the problem is certainly not the fine young thing but your significant other who is the only guilty party... Not because a person come on to you, mean you are supposed to jump into them or have them jump into you... Have some self-control and take some personality responsibility for your actions…!!!!
